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#13: Voice Note: Is your soulmate search just self-sabotage?
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#13: Voice Note: Is your soulmate search just self-sabotage?

Optimization culture is making us lonely

In this ep I re-examine the myth of the soulmate, which many of us consciously reject but also cling to. Pervasive optimization culture and dating apps have also poisoned the way we pursue romantic bonds. People’s fixation on always upgrading and judging potential partners against checklists has paradoxically left us lonelier.

I cite a lot of different articles in this ep, and they’re all in the show notes!

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Examining polyamory, food culture, and beauty standards from the lens of a Burmese New Yorker.